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Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Whose name goes first on a wedding invitation... Bride or Groom?

The Bride!

This is a common question asked by many of our clients ordering wedding stationery. It is considered as etiquette to print the bride’s name first. This goes back centuries ago when the young woman's parents would have a dowry to give to the groom to be. Today, it's simply protocol.

Your invitation wording may vary according to personal taste, and depending on how formal your celebration will be. But, whatever the format, the invitation should state the following:

• names of the bride's parents or other hosts.

• first name of the bride.

• first name and surname of the bridegroom and his title (Mr/Doctor etc.)

• where the ceremony is taking place.

• date, month and year of the wedding ceremony.

• location of the wedding reception.

• address to which guests should reply, and a reply date.

You might also wish to include:

• details of any dress code/theme.

• time guests can expect the day to come to an end.

• whether children are invited

Who sends the invitation?

Invitations always go out from whoever is hosting the wedding - often the bride's parents. The wording becomes more complicated if parents are divorced or if the couple are hosting the event themselves.

The usual wording for a traditional invitation is:

Mr & Mrs James Jones request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter Sue to Mr Jonathan Wood at … Church, Town, on (date), (month), (year), at, (time) and afterwards at (reception venue). RSVP: (host's address).

... and if you are hosting your own wedding

Ms Sarah Stevens
Mr Adam Johnson
request the pleasure of your company
at their marriage
on date, month, year
at, time
Church, Ceremony etc

Please let me know if you have any requests or unanswered questions – I am always looking for new articles for our blog! This will be good inspiration for me to do research.


Sara said...

So it's really considered a no-no to not list the bride's parent's names? Reason I ask, my parents are divorced, both remarried, both helping to host along with my FI and I also contributing a good amount--but my dad's wife will not come since she doesn't get along with the rest of the family. That's why we decided to avoid the whole situation of awkward by saying: Together with their parents, [bride's name] and [groom's name]....

Plus we really aren't having a super formal wedding either--so we thought maybe a little more laid back wording would be nice. We also are stating at the bottom of the invite instead of "reception to follow" we are saying "BBQ, pie and mingling to follow" because we thought it would be a fun change to see!

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